Tuesday, May 26, 2015
Can I Live: The Judge and Jury of the LBGTQ
I start this blog entry as honest open and true as I can possibly be. This questions often comes up in the community but it just seems to simmer never really seems to heat up, with understandable reasons. I just want to know is there like a legal LBGTQ court system where if you go against the LBGTQ constitution or the LBGTQ commandments your punishment will be death by shaming from you former peers? For example: You will no longer be able to attend another LBGTQ event without being talked about or inappropriate jokes about how you've changed over or questioning if your were even gay in the first place? You cant have any same sex friendship because then that an additional charge of trying to play both sides of the fence AUTOMATICALLY making you a target for passing diseases throughout the community and when those don't apply your either pregnant or dying from some sort of STD. I thought about it and if there where any truth to having a LBGTQ set of commandments (just for length purposes) it would probably be something like this.
1. You shall only go to 1 club there are no other social spots put before your regular club
2. You shall not have on the same thing as someone else or a who wore it best contest will be started on Instagram where likes then counts as votes
3.You shall not talk bad about your home club when going elsewhere or you will no longer have access to the club.
4. Remember dedicate your entire weekend to the club
5. You shall obey your gay mother and father
6. You shall not murder the scene when you walk through it is displeasing to those who really put in effort for their look.
7. You shall not sleep with someone else mate UNLESS you don't like them for no reason or they have done you wrong, or a fellow gay family member wrong then its ok.
8. You shall not steal (drugs alcohol girl or boy friend or spotlight on the main stage)
9. You shall not be gay or lesbian over 5+ and the all of sudden hetero not even to have a kid.
10. You shall not lay eat or sleep in my house unless are doing absolutely nothing with your life
These are things that seem to be what we now consider acceptable and if your doing anything outside of this then it seems that either you "gay card" is snatched or points are deducted, but WHY THO. Last time I checked the world that we live in crucifies and tears us down enough so when did it make sense to do it within our own. Can someone tell me where and when the unity was lost? Why is it now a competition on who did it better? When did we stop catering to what the community wants for the sake of saying "I wore it better than you" "I threw the best party" "I have the better entourage". It kind of relates back to my former blog post (http://sweettoothmedia.blogspot.com/2015/04/have-you-been-kendrick-lamard-yet-blind.html) where we have our own race tearing each other down over their skin tone. Does anyone not recognize the ignorance? By all means I don't have the total solution...nope I don't, however I do want to be apart the solution in some shape form or fashion. I want to be apart of the community where I am not shamed because my make-up isn't MAC and my bag isn't Micheal Kors and my shoes aren't Jimmy Choo.
I want to be apart of the community where boundaries are respected within a relationship and where valid reasons for not liking a person is present. I want to be a part of a community that doesn't back down that doeskin hesitate to stand up and say something when one of our own is being degraded or abused and in some cases killed. That is willing to sign petitions and get laws changed to protect the T in LBGT and not re-post RIP. I want to be able to be comfortable in my own identity without being labeled (studs femmes trans drag) or put in a group because of what I prefer (rachet, hard workers, average, balling). Can we please PLEASE stop living our lives living outside of our means to be a replica of some Hollywood star without doing the work. Beyonce didn't just wake up like this her ass sung and competed in contest and formed a group wrote her own songs SHE DID THE WORK. Oprah didn't just wake the hell up with her millions she started as an intern then she got a local show THEN moved her way to a national stage TO THEN have her own network (s/o to OWN Network hey Oprah girl). But it seems as within this community most live or try to live the life without doing the work. DO YOUR WORK start on the inside so then when those who lack growth come for you it no longer bothers you. I admit at one point in my life I was slightly caught up in the rapture of the lights and titles and the fake hugs and kisses just to try to get in my spot. But then I became ill, yep had a stroke. I wasn't supposed to make it for 8 months couldn't walk damaged kidneys and brain (God blessed me to not have major damage and I thank him daily for it) but then that's when my light was cut off and the show went on without me. That is when I realized that lime light that looks so nice and bright can be dimmed just like that. Now I'm at a point in my life where that need I felt to go out and mingle with those who said they love me has truly left and I now enjoy just living life and going to non LBGT events and concentrating on my growth because I choose to be known to the world and not just the "gay world". I want my mark left among millions of people gay straight black white young old, this is the goal I seek, and you know what, it much less stress. Because in society there isn't a label stuck to you when you are doing great things or making improvement all they know is your name and what you stand for and how much you made a change. I'm just waiting on the day where we can all put pride and problems aside and stand as one. Is that too much too ask? Let me know READ COMMENT LIKE AND SHARE!
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