Monday, September 28, 2015

Horny and Healthy: How Sex Can Improve A Woman's Overall Health

    I'm back and I'm here to tell you, ladies you better get you some, no really you should. What I mean by some which some of you may have already figured out I mean SEX, SEXUAL RELATIONS, LOVE MAKING, BED ROCKING, and the many many other names for this particular action. If you remember in a previous blog I mention that the FDA approved a new drug called Addyi, which is the female version of Viagra. Surveys says an estimated 8 to 14% of women between the ages of 20-49 suffer from hypo active sexual desire which is approximately 5.5 to 8.6. million women in the U.S. The F.D.A. stated that the drug was approved for women who has lost their sexual drive due to "marked distress" or "interpersonal difficulty" and not for the use for those who suffer from a lower sexual drive due to medication side affects, illness (depression or mood disorders), or relationship problems, check out Well for those that may not need that assistance or even for those that do here are a few facts on the benefits of having sex for women:

1. Less stress- At least 1 out of  Americans admit that they deal with a great amount of stress everyday. Whether it is dealing with job, home life, finances stress is sometimes unavoidable. Researchers from the University of West of Scotland reveals that people who have sex at least once every 2 weeks were able to manage stressful situations. That is because endorphin and Oxycontin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones are what get the active pleasure center in your brain up and going which brings intimacy and relaxation. Also research shows that women who were directly exposed to semen were less likely to be depressed. There are mood-altering hormones that are present in semen can be absorbed through the vagina. Some include but are not limited to Prolactin and natural anti-depressant and Oxytocin which assist in enhancing one's mood and serotonin, a widely known antidepressant neurotransmitter. In return help keeps anxiety and depression away, and who wants either one of those, I mean honestly. **Added bonus #1 the cowgirl position and upstanding are the top two position where results has shown to be better**

2. Sleep Aid- Many have used the line or went into the bedroom with the goal "I'm about to put that ass to sleep" maybe not verbatim in those words but you get it. However here is the type of sex that you need to aim for to achievement says Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D., the director of the Sexual Psychophysiology Lab at The University of Texas at Austin (GO LONGHORNS). During an orgasm a hormone Prolactin is released. "Prolactin levels are naturally higher when we sleep which suggests a strong relationship between the two," So here is the key the more active your are during sex, like the night you wanted to try every position possible you really just energize yourself even more, slow and steady is the key to a good nights rest, thank me later. **Added bonus #2 The Flat Iron position is some that is simple position as well as fulfilling definitely a sleeper move**

3. Pain Reliever- Don't have any Advil or Aleeve around, but your mate is available, BOOM the solution is right there and wont cost you a dime. The endorphin that are released during and orgasm are similar to the feeling of morphine, yes morphine and immediately relieves pain. Now lets just say your mate is unavailable, you can do this all by yourself and get the same results. **Added bonus #3 The position Valedictorian can be done with or without a partner, but its better with an added person**

4.Cold Medicine- No wants to be touched when they are sick with a cold, I mean who feels attractive when they are sick. Your immune system is fight a whole war on the inside and you look like you have been to war on the outside. Well here is a little prevention method that can prevent all of that. Researchers at Wilkes University have found that people who have sex were found to have higher levels of a antibody called immunoglobulin which helps the body combat dieases and keeps the body safe from colds and flu. So as fall and winter approach and the cold and flu season comes around I suggest you get that immunoglobulin up and going or be stuck on the couch. **Added bonus #4 Enjoy some champagne while trying out the champagne room position hell while listening to a lil ChampagnePapi (that's Drake by the way)***

5. Fountain Of Youth- There are so many products out now for skin aging too many to keep up. However a panel taken in Scotland showed that women who were sexually active at least 4 times a week on average were perceived to be 7 to 12 years younger than their actual age. Regular sex increases the release of hormones, including testosterone and estrogen which keeps the body looking youthful and flawless. Also there are many anti aging products out now however the real fountain of youth comes from a very natural and free resource, yes ladies I am talking about sperm. In sperm is a crystalline polyamine compound called Spermine which is also considered an antioxidant. It is believed to diminish wrinkles, smooth skin, and help with taming or preventing acne.  According to BioForSkining the cream Spremine is 30 times more effective than Vitamin E and can delay the process of aging by 20%. So the next time you stop to go shop for your facial cream which on average goes for 80$ and over. Just think about and reconsider it might get you closer to something else fabulous you can buy for yourself. **Added bonus #5 There are a variety of tasty lubes to help with the process**

6. Lighter Periods and Less Cramps- Now ladies as we all know the monster we call the menstrual cycle can be what seems like the death of you. Bloating, cramps, mood swings, the time of the month where we transition into a totally different person. However, "When a woman orgasms, her uterus contracts and, in the process rids the body of cramp causing compounds." explains Meston. The increased number of uterine contractions can also help blood and tissue flow more freely which ends the period more quickly. Although it doesn't seem appealing because you automatically think what a mess. However if you place down a dark towel and stick only to the missionary position because when laying down the flow is lighter, and nothing has to stop your sexual schedule, well unless you have an unwilling participant and then is so, solo it is for you. **Added bonus #6 Stick to missionary for the sake of your sheets**

Last but not least

7. What a Hellva Way To Work Out: As you know sex is #2 on the charts for cardio. Sex can burn up to 85 to 250 calories per session (depending on the session length) and is also good for sculpting. been wanting to get rid of the pooch ladies, fella is you 6 pack no longer at 6, get to sexing. Not only are you working on your heart you are also working on your back, butt, and thighs. So skip the spin class, skip the treadmill, and find your partner and burn those calories in a more fun and exciting way. **Added bonus #7 the more positions you try the more calories you burn***

So now that I have given you 7 fabulous reason to have sex, go have some for goodness sake. However let's not be reckless in the process remember:
1. Safe sex is the best sex
2. Don't be afraid to have it with yourself you will get the same results
3. Do it at your own time and pace, no pressure

Peace and Blessings,
Swagg P

"Buzzworthy Cravings, Creatively Satisfied!"

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Battle of the Sexes...of the Same Sex

I start this entry off with the love of God in my heart and the education of my own experiences just a slight disclaimer before I began. Now I have noticed this strange activity in any given place, whether it be a store, restaurant, public parks, and often in clubs or party settings. When another stud and/or masculine centered female or a femme and/or girly female enters into stated places have you found yourself maybe adjusting your collar or refreshing gloss does something deep down inside moves and feels the need to refresh themselves because competition has entered? I feel we are more territorial beings than we are willing to admit. Many can say "I'm comfortable with who I am" or "I dont do that" but whether it has been subconsciously or out of habit, we at one point felt in some form we had to prep for competition. Now by all means this is not just an LBGT community it is a common problem amongst humans period, however I focused with my community. Now my hopes for this blog is to get just a few questions answered:

                 1. Is there an underline issue that people refuse to acknowledge?
                 2. Is it really that hard to admit that someone looks better?
                 3. For those who are in relationship, why are you so uncomfortable in your relationship                           where you feel threatened?

Now some may say well those questions are just like unsolved mysteries, things that will never have an answer to, but you know it doesn't have to be that way if you would be honest. For the sake of this piece I'll start. I have and sometimes slip back into a competitive spirit. If I haven't been seen in said setting in a while I go out my way to be presentable. As someone who has played a few roles within the nightlife what once was a place to come to party and release the stress of the week has slowly became mini fashion shown unbeknownst. Now this is no current trend in the song from the great O'Jays Livin' For The Weekend he states "I put on my glad rags and hit the town"  now you have songs such as "I'mma hurt'em with a fit that cost a little more residence" (Gucci, Loius, Prada, Twista) which give folks these false pretense goals that they now have to go buy these labels to "stunt" on someone for a total of about 4 hours or so, and one thing I will mention is stunting leads to death sooner or later, but I digress. My question is once the club closes, and you got enough gas to maybe make it to the nearest relative house in hopes they will let you in and give you enough gas money to get home. All to hope on your way home you pray your lights are still on because you are wearing and slept in your light bill. Where do you go from there? When you got all dolled up and spent your child's daycare all for not to even get a "hey your cute", does that cause emptiness? Where does this Alpha attitude come from, and how far does it get you in life?  Now hear me out, back in my youth I felt that need. I felt that at the end of the day if I left with one hook up or a compliment my job was complete. I was in, I was "that girl"...that was until someone who didn't break a sweat buying the outfit she had on that cost my entire attire came in and then the stage light dimmed, and I had to follow the routine as I stated before going to my mama house in hopes she don't cuss me out about not managing my money. After a while however I realized that the comfort I feel knowing my bills are paid, and I have gas, and I have food and that my life goals was more deserving than those pair of shoes or that gorgeous dress, so then I started investing in myself where I know I will get financial gain and all the praise from the right people. Those people who believed in me from day 1, that is where my satisfaction lies. Fashion and fame will always be forever changing so I then start thinking "when it's my time, there will be an ensemble waiting for me." Let me say this if fashion is your passion this aint yes aint for you, follow your dreams we need continuous future designers in rotation, this is for those who try hard to mirror the hottest celebrity styles without that celebrity income, again digress.

Moving on, for those in relationship, it's ok because I know you're reading this alone its ok to say, yeah I do grab my mate a little closer when another lesbian woman enters the room, its the alpha in you or whatever lie or reason you feed yourself. However if you have a stable relationship where you know you have this person mind heart and soul then what is your purpose? If any intimidation comes over me when I'm with my mate then guess what we need to have a talk when we get home because somehow there is still some uncomfort in the relationship. I've heard a million times "The same thing you did to get her is what you need to do to keep her" I've also heard "They way you got her is the same way you will loose her". Which then leads me to think that you know karma is waiting on yo ass at tha doe!! If you live right though you worry less. When searching for real love you have to know that there is a risk each and every time you fall, the key is to find that one worth the risk and once yo do, the fear of anyone else coming between is long gone. It is only when yo know that you are not doing right by the code and ethics of love does worry come about. When is the last time you and your mate had a soul touching conversation? Where you and your partner sat and bared your soul, each others fears, each others goals, each others passions. These are some of the conversations that can be had to get rid of the alpha attitude and start being in a relationship of equal balance, where you both can come out in the same grace and style of queens and king, or queens and queens or which ever title suits your situation. So next time a female walks in take a moment, stop, breathe, and remind yourself that your queen is by your side and because of our deep conversation and deep connections nobody can tear that apart.

I end this extended rant and public service announcement to ask, what are you doing for your self to get more comfortable with you. The more you find comfort in yourself, nothing or no one else can move that. Let's leave the alpha title to the heterosexual men who still as adults cant get it right. Lets act accordingly please, as a solid unified group of individuals who should be setting examples of what true love is about. Let's open this discussion, I am open to all opinion, comments, questions, concerns hit me up at I would like to hear more from my readers.

Peace and Blessings
Swagg P

"Buzzworthy Cravings, Creatively Satisfied!"

Monday, September 7, 2015

Don't Let Me Get Me

This week begins a very important week for many Americans, this week starts the National Suicide Prevention Week. The World Suicide Prevention Day is Tuesday September 10, however AAS (American Association of Suicidology) and several other organizations offers a week long of different events to really get the message out. There are over 200 classified forms of mental illness which often leads to suicide. Here are a few known facts about suicide:

                    1. Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death among young people..
                    2. There is 1 suicide for every 25 attempts
                    3. Suicide amongst males is 4 times higher than amongst females
                    4. Poisoning is the most common method of suicide by females
                    5. 1 in 100,00 children ages 10-14 die by suicide each year


I think that we as Americans have definitely progressed as far as offering outlets and starting different trends (NoRIP, STOMP Out Bullying, It Gets Better Project etc.), however there is plenty more work to be done. Victims of Cyber Bullying are 2 to 9% likely to commit suicide than those who do not access the internet. Many teens and even adults sometimes don't realize the signs, or know the signs but for different reason don't seek to get help. Some are frightened by just the thought of it, they hear the word "doctor" or "physiologist" and automatically think money and finance because the free sources aren't advertised enough. There is also the aspect of culture or religious reason in which someone doenst seek help. In Asia mental health is shunned and frowned upon. American Indians some recognize mental illness and some of them only recognize certain ones. I myself came from a very religious family in which you "pray it" away, what I didnt realize until I got older is that God placed those who help with mental illness for a reason. It was then where I started to seek help to now know that I have been diagnosed as a manic depressive as well as anxiety.

                                                   I cope with it day by day. I am currently on 2 different medications one is to maintain my depression and the other for anxiety purposes. A few of my family recognized the signs, but not many families are that fortunate, here are a few signs that you friend/loved one is struggling with a mental illness:

                                       1. Confused thinking
                                       2. Feelings of extreme highs and lows
                                       3. Social withdrawal
                                       4. Growing inability to cope with daily problems and activities
                                       5. Dramatic changes in eating or sleeping habits

                           Here is my advice as a person who currently sufferers :
                                      1. When someone asks whats wrong don't be afraid to share if they took a                                                    moment to ask you that means they care enough about you to help.
                                      2. Learn family history, you never know who you will be able to reach out to                                             just within your family.
                                     3.  Nothing is wrong about getting treatment for your mental illness don't let                                               anyone shame you to feel otherwise.
                                     4.  Google different free resources that will help with your mental illness they                                            are out there safe and confidential
                                     5.  You are not alone

For those who may be interested I will be participating in the 2015 Walk For Mental Heath Houston taking place October 10 sign up on site for 6:30 am the walk starts at 8am feel free to join my team I am looking for active participants as well as donations

Join team We Kare as we help end the stigma of Mental Illness.

Peace and Blessings
Swagg P

"Buzzworthy Cravings, Creatively Satisfied!"